Beseech ye the one true God to grant that ye may taste the savor of such deeds as are performed in His path, and partake of the sweetness of such humility and submissiveness as are shown for His sake. Forget your own selves, and turn your eyes towards your neighbor. Bend your energies to whatever may foster the education of men. Nothing is, or can ever be, hidden from God.
~Bahá’u'lláh
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All things are beneficial if joined with the love of God…When His love is there, every bitterness turneth sweet…
~’Abdu’l-Bahá
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There are only five days left of until winter vacation, which means we are approaching the midpoint of the school year.
The second semester is significantly longer than the first, I know, and this long-awaited winter break is a mere week in length…yet it still feels like a tremendous milestone. One semester down, three more to go.
How I wish I weren’t living for vacations. How I yearn to be a person who appreciates the beauty and possibility of every moment, rather than counting down the minutes ’til Friday, or checking off the boxes on the calendar ’til the next national holiday. But the truth is that my prayer, every morning, is “Please God, help me just get through this day.”
I continue to be amazed at how difficult this adjustment has been for me. I guess I’d gotten a little too confident in my ability to adapt to new situations and challenges. I thought I thrived on them, in fact. But this experience has been a test of entirely different proportions for me….and I’ve come to realize that it isn’t because of the work itself. It’s because of the time.
Sure, the six-year-olds’ incessant questions, and overwhelming neediness, and episodes of pants-wetting try my patience…but they also endear the kids to me. And whether or not I’m cut out to teach first-grade special education, those children have, without a doubt, increased my capacity to love. So, despite all my grumblings, I am thankful for this opportunity, and I really do enjoy this work. What I’m struggling with, in reality, is the feeling that my time is no longer my own.
Okay, I know we could argue that our time is never our own–it belongs to God, and every day we are given is a gift. Yet, somehow, in previous chapters of my life, I felt able to maintain more of a balance with my time. I could work, I could study, I could engage in artistic pursuits, I could nurture friendships, and–most importantly–I could (try to) be of service to the Faith and humanity. But now, my time belongs to the kids of Room 309. And not only my time, but also all of my energy. Which means that when I come home to my husband (and we are still in our early months of marriage) the best of me is already depleted. He’s endowed with an empathy and patience that are not of this world, and knows we will get through this, but I so wish I could give him more than my tiredest moments.
In those previous chapters of life, nothing brought me greater joy than assisting with the neighborhood community-building efforts, such as children’s classes, devotional gatherings, junior youth groups…and now, when I do have a free afternoon (usually a Saturday), the last thing I want to do is interact with society. Often, I refuse to even get out of my pajamas.
And the hardest part is this: though the six-year-olds have become the fulcrum of my existence (or so it would seem), I don’t feel that I am actually being of service to them. I still have no idea how to “scaffold a mini-lesson” and “differentiate instruction” and create “standards-based unit plans that are at once rigorous and aligned with the specific learning needs” of my students. All I really want to do is take them on field trips, and sing “We are Drops” and listen to them, each one of them, with the fullness of my heart and attention without rushing through their questions to get to the day’s math lesson.
Now I’m just ranting…and am usurping this space–the purpose of which is to share humorous and uplifting anecdotes about six-year-olds–to unload all my grievances. Please forgive me, dear reader. I will try not to make a habit of this.
I don’t really celebrate Christmas, and the Bahá’í New Year is not until March, but since for so much of humanity, this season is a time of hope, I am going to make a wish. I don’t wish for a change of profession, a change of location (as much as I might yearn, every day, to be back in Dominica), or a change of teaching assignment (I may even elect to stay in first-grade next year, if the school’ll keep me). My wish is for a change of perspective. To see this experience as a God-given bounty, laden with potential growth and learning…if I can only get my ego and expectations out of the way.
My wish is to be more like the melon-taster in the story below, who partakes of bitterness, and considers it sweet.
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Luqmán, often identified with Aesop (the Ethiopian) and for whom the thirty-first chapter of the Qur’án is named, one day received from his master a slice of melon. He ate it as if it were honey, and his master, always anxious to please him, gave him another slice. This too he ate with pleasure. The master then gave him slice after slice.
“I’ll eat this last one myself,” the master said, to share Luqmán’s delight.
The melon was so bitter it blistered his tongue. “Why did you not decline this?” he asked.
“How could I refuse from thee one thing that is bitter,” Luqmán answered, “when I have received from thy hand so much that is sweet?”
~From Rumi’s “Mathnaví,” retold by Marzieh Gail in Arches of the Years